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Le masque de la victime

” Comment et pourquoi, moi, en tant que mâle, je cache mes émotions? ” Vous trouverez dans ce livre la description de douze masques classés en trois catégories : cinq masques d’anti-virilité, quatre masques d’anti-émotivité et trois masques de dureté. Voici une brève description de l’homme qui porte un masque de victime.

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